[Reprint] child childhood life cannot be missing companion friendship _ small seal tears

Original address: child childhood life cannot be missing companion friendship author: close to the me warm your angelic mother taught you walk out of the education children's puzzle (2) primary school children's peer interaction is an important feature of the--start- friendship established friendship means and close companion, schoolmates, established a special kind of intimate relationships and the development of the children have an important influence, which provides children learn social skills, communication, cooperation, and self control, and experience the emotions and awareness activities, and to provide emotional support for children, children of loneliness, improve children's self-esteem, as later laid the foundations of human relationships. First sight of him, is a quiet 13-year-old boy, personality testing results show that he is typical of the bile fluid externally oriented temperaments. What made me see and verify things inconsistent? three-month consultation guidance contacts down and let me know some tribunals. In his fifth year of primary school, class of students to go to the Internet to play, this school is prohibited. Several of his buddies have to fear that he told the teacher as an attempt to pull him into the water. Xiaoqiu on Internet gaming is also very interesting, but pressure from the father's dignity, he dare not go, because every time he made a mistake, as the teacher looking for parents, regardless of whether he has committed a wrong principle, is the largest is small, the father will give him a shot blasting. But in the higher grades of children is very focused on the relationship of partners, the students again and again asked him to do, he shall take care of the man's face. Once he had a long inner struggle or into the Internet, playing for ten minutes run out. Upright him more and more wrong, confessed to the teacher to go to Internet cafes, while "betray" the go to classmates. Since the teacher has finished processing the matter after, he would have been no better days. Books often torn off page, schoolmates not speak to him again, what games are no one took him to play, was his "betrayal" of students passing from his side, often rushed him spit, and accompanied by a nasty bad language. Back home he dare not speak with MOM and dad, fear is a storm hit. Ban on all the bad things students unite to teachers proved xiaoqiu stem, told the teacher demonstrated their innocence, and the parents did not dare to say that time half year performance was down, people become honest, was yellow. From the look of his conscience, in fact the child's heart was greatly hurt and distorted. This shows that the primary relationships, peer relations impact on them. As pupils ' parents, we need to keep abreast of changes in the child, not the heart to his status to professional organizations for assistance, the following Liu help you interpret the friendship between the children. Child development of friendship in the intimate, stability and selective, as children grow older, the friendship of characteristics is also evolving. United States well-known child psychologist celman (Selman, 1980) considers that the development of childhood friendship has five stages. The first phase (3 to 7 years), there is no stable friendship relations. Children also have the concept of forming friendships, relationships between the child cannot call it friendship, but rather short game peer relationship. On this phase of the children, the friendship is often play together, friends and the advantages and material properties and the spatial and temporal proximity. Think a friend is playing together with your own, and they live together. The second phase (4 to 9 years old), one-way help stage. This phase of the children asked a friend to be able to subject to their own wishes and requirements. If you submit your own friends, otherwise it is not a friend. Phase III (6-12 years old), bi-directional help stage. This phase of the children can help each other, but also fair-weather. Children on the friendship of interactivity with a certain understanding, but still has significant utility features. Phase IV (9 to 15 years old), intimate sharing stage. Child development concept of the friends, view friends can share with each other, friendship is over time evolved and developed and friends should be mutual trust and loyalty through thick and thin. They start from quality to describe friends, consider themselves and a friend of common interest is the basis of friendship. Children's friendship begins with a certain degree of stability. Friends can tell secrets, discuss, plan and help each other. But this stage friendship has a strong exclusive and exclusivity. The fifth phase (12 years later), autonomous coexistence phase, is the friendship of the highest stage of development. It is to provide psychological support to each other and the spiritual power, mutual access to self identity. Because your friends more strict, so set up friend relationship duration are relatively long. The above phase change reflects the children grow older, the friendship have different understanding on primary school children, the initial (primary school, second year), children are just some of the relationship between the surface and to define friend, that friend is live near, toys, likes to play with themselves, play your favorite gaming Companion. Later (four, fifth grade of primary school), gradually developed into the friendship as a more abstract of mutual concern, the emotional, mutual comfort huxiang intrinsic relationship, that friend is mutual support and mutual devotion, cooperation, mutual fighting. Last (starting in grade), children will make friendship as can pour out self-disclosure and other secret special peer relations, a friend is there are common interests, mutual understanding, mutual disclosure of personal secrets. Xiaoqiu violated the children'sFriendship elementary rules, therefore the marginalization of mood and character out of the disorder. Therefore, if a child in primary school learning phase, no mate, not let themselves into small groups, which will be a very painful thing. Sometimes the child with parents talk to their grievances, my mother would say: "do not play won't play my balance, you are going to school, not to play." Read the above article, you will not be on children's peer awareness of comity has renewed ? companion companionship conversation features voiceover: in the children's time, his father and mother often hands-on fighting father drank wine will start playing mother that one time was in my room reading a book, see dad was pumped Mom's slap, he ran past Sherwin, Mastiff acoustic kneeling at the front: "Daddy, Daddy, please don't hit Mommy, Daddy you old fight I write without jobs". Father of the wine world is son of the kneecap behavior awoke, he tearfully said to me: "Liu, my personality, I won't beat boy MOM, I know the impact on children. "In fact, parents, children are standing on the side of the self-sacrificing mother, no wonder he's surface phenomena and measurement of personality report.